Maa, tum kaisi ho?

Mother’s Day has come and gone. And apparently we all did our duties as a child by dedicating sweet statuses to our moms on Facebook or posting pictures on Instagram. What did I do? Well, I kinda did the same thing. Except, I did it with all my heart. If you all did the same, then high fives to all of you

But Mother’s Day is sort of like Valentine’s Day, where we suddenly decide to display all our love for someone so special, for just 24 hours. But then what? What comes after that? What happens when the clock strikes 12, and that day gets over? Do we still treat our moms with the same amount of love and royalty? Do we still surprise her with little gifts or click photographs with her just cause we feel like it?

I have always been very close to my mom. And by close I mean really, REALLY close. She’s my best friend, my fairy godmother and my savior, all wrapped into one. She’s the one I go to when I’m upset, she’s the one I call when I have something happy to share, she’s the one who gives me the best advice, she’s the one who gives me the strength to go on. In short, she’s my lifeline. I love her unconditionally, yes. But just because she’s a perfect mom, it doesn’t mean that I’m a perfect daughter. Hell no. In fact, I’m far from it. At times I underestimate her, behave terribly with her, and say stuff I’m not supposed to... Basically, I do things that she never does to me. Of course I feel guilty about it later, and when I go to her with my watery eyes and puppy face, she hugs me tight and forgives me. Maybe cause that’s what is expected of moms; compassion, forgiveness and kindness. But have you ever thought what your mother expects from you? True that being the epitome of selflessness that she is, we never really think that she might need anything, but what we forget is that at the end of the day she IS a human being and she, like everyone else, has certain dreams and expectations.

After cleaning up your messes all her life, can’t you atleast thank her by covering her with a blanket so that she’s not cold?

After spending sleepless nights looking after you, can’t you just have a chat with her and make her laugh?

After throwing countless tantrums for every silly thing, can’t you, for once, ask her if she wants something for a change?

While you are at a pub dancing to loud music or boozing your lungs away, she is probably tidying up your room while crying because you shouted at her for the food being “not what you wanted”.  

Don’t do that to her. Don’t yell at her for your mistakes. Don’t make her cry. Don’t make her feel guilty about something she hasn’t even done.

She has been there for you your whole life and will always be there whenever you need her, so atleast be a little grateful for that. Cause everyone will come and go, but your mom will always be there right beside you, ready to fight for you against the world.

She doesn’t need your thank you, she just needs a hug.

She doesn’t want pricey gifts, she just wants some respect.

She doesn’t want a trip to Europe, she just wants you to sit beside her for some time and talk to her, share with her, listen to her. To just, be with her.

You love your mom, of course you do, so tell her that. Show her you love her. Take her out to lunch and treat her with her favourite cuisine. Go out for a movie. Go to the spa. Go shopping. Giggle like teenagers while taking trips down the memory lane. Remind her that you’re still her little kid and that you’ll always need her. But also let her know that you’ll be there for her when her eyesight goes a weak or when she can no longer remember things that easily. Hug her tight. Rest your head on her lap. You'll find peace. Tell her you’re sorry. She’ll forgive you. You know why? Because she understands you. Like no one else ever can. Because deep down she knows that you’ll always come back to her when you’re lost, and she’ll always hold your hand and show you the way back. She always has, and she always will.

Go to your mom and tell her you love her. It’s never too late and it’s never too much. I’ll do it too. :)